Assorted Ravings of the Slightly-Weird

All About...

... CTG. Which is what I've been promising to write about for the past two entries. But this is going to be a fairly disjointed entry because I can't for the life of me put together something that sounds coherent.

In a comment on an earlier post, B asked how I knew CTG doesn't read this. Simply put, I asked and it turns out CTG has forgotten the URL so it's fairly safe to assume that he doesn't read it. But then I got to thinking, so what if CTG reads this? I mean, so I think he's cute. Big fat hairy deal. It's nothing to get embarassed about, even if he somehow finds out. In fact, let's make it more obvious.

I THINK CTG IS CUTE.

There, I've said it. I've been "proud and loud".

Now whether anything happens from that (assuming that he somehow remembers the URL) will be a different matter. Which brings me to another point. Over the past week, CTG and I hung out a lot and, to me at least, we got along pretty well together. (Maybe he thinks I'm some kind of a pest.) Anyhow, it didn't seem like he was interested in anything else besides hanging out, so one friend suggested that either he's gay or he's not interested.

I'm not sure which is more disappointing. I mean, it'd be kinda embarassing to come onto someone who plays for a different team (IYKWIM). But on the other hand, it's probably easier to take the rejection due to someone being gay than just not being interested. With the first the problem lies with him; with the second the problem lies with me. So it's really easier to assume "Oh he's gay" rather than "He's not interested".

And that brings me to the 3rd point of the night. Which is, in this day and age gaydars have to be pretty much precise to the 2nd decimal point to be able to detect anything that is not overtly, flamboyantly gay.

It used to be that guys who were nicely dressed and well groomed had a higher chance of being gay, but now you've got metrosexuals running all over the place having facials, manicures and pedicures, getting their clothes tailored and in general paying a lot more attention to themselves. So bang, there goes that theory.

Another theory a friend has is that for Asian guys at least, guys with muscular bodies tend to be gay. I dunno on this one: wasn't working out supposed to be a guy thing? Since when was it supposed to mean anything else? But I've been told that certain gyms are gay hangout spots, so there could be some truth to it, though it seems fairly iffy to me.

So what can you do? You meet a guy who's well-dressed, well-groomed and well-built and he could be well-dressed, well-groomed and well-built because he's gay or because he's straight. What's a girl to do to tell these days? In one of my favourite movies, "For Love of the Game", Kelly Preston's character says over dinner to Kevin Costner's character that she wishes things could be easier and that people would wear tags that would say exactly what they were. So, you'd see a guy walking on a street and if his tag said "Single and available" then that'd be like jackpot. If it said "Neurotic after 2 weeks" you'd cross the street immediately to get out of his way. That way you waste so little time and avoid a ton of humiliation.

Anyway this post was supposed to be about CTG and in a way it still is. To summarise:
1) I think CTG is cute. (Duh. Else why would the "C" exist??") And frankly, I don't really care if he knows.
2) Since he doesn't seem interested, is it because he's not interested or is he NOT interested?
3) How the heck do you go about finding out if someone's not interested or NOT interested? Is there any kind of protocol to follow when you're trying to see if a guy is gay or not?

Ooooh. Comments already. Well firstly, I don't think distance should stop anyone. It sure as hell won't stop me. And secondly, I don't know what my tag would read. Possibly something like "No strings attached".

Posted by scrabbyfoo at April 15, 2005 12:04 AM