December 31, 2006
Love Is...
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being able to accept him for what he is. To love him as the sum total of all that is good and bad about him, all his qualities and all his imperfections and flaws. To not expect him to change for you but to grow together with you.
Love is being able to trust him still, and to accept all that he says at face value. Love is being able to forgive and to move on. Because it's too tiring to have to constantly check up on him and to constantly wonder if he's being honest. Because it will never work if you hold the mistake over his head as a tool, and use it as a means to demand things for yourself.
Love is putting him before yourself, like when you give him a heads up when you really didn't need to. Love is thinking about how your actions affect him, before thinking about how they affect yourself. Love is being there for him all the time. Love is not about giving ultimatums, or demanding for certain actions to be taken as proof of his love.
Love is silly, in many ways. But, love is also about asking the tough questions. The questions that he may not be able to answer or want to answer, but that he should be thinking about, even if he doesn't have the bandwidth to do so now. Love is standing by him in all that he does, as long as it is good for him. Love is to challenge him and not to be his yes-man.
I can do all this for him, and I will do all this for him even if he doesn't ask it of me, until the day love fades or transmutes into something else.
And by the way, this one-way conversation is really kinda strange...
Posted by scrabbyfoo at December 31, 2006 08:50 PM